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Volume 01 | January 2008 | Create Lasting Change in Your Life
Part 1 - Welcome!
Part 2 - Feature Article - Ten Principles to Creating Lasting Change in Your Life
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Part 1 - Welcome!
Dear Partner of a Workaholic,
Welcome to this our first newsletter written especially
to support Partners of Workaholics.
Firstly I’d like to wish you all a very happy,
healthy, prosperous and fulfilled 2008 and thank
you for signing up for the newsletter which is published
on a monthly basis.
Recovering Workaholics is a growing concern. We
offer 1:1 coaching, and training to facilitate those
who want a truly satisfying life. Understanding
what drives us to work to the point where love,
happiness and fulfillment are the poor relation
is the first step to creating a life you truly love.
We can help you work towards achieving your “dream”
We also offer support for those who are facing
retirement or who have recently retired or experienced
redundancy who are finding it difficult to adjust
to the change.
If you know of anyone who would be interested in
working with us please let us know by contacting
us on firstname.lastname@example.org
For many people the New Year is a time when they
take stock of their life. So many of us create goals
or make New Year’s resolutions which are important
to us at the time of making yet fall by the wayside
and become a forgotten memory a few days later.
Do you love your life? Think about it being 31st
December 2008. Would you be happy if your life was
still the same as it is now? Could it be even better
– does it need a fundamental shift in priorities?
If you want more out of your life, if you want things
to be different the only person who has the power
to make a difference – is you.
To improve the quality of your life as a whole
or a particular aspect of your life you need to
make a choice. To choose to deal with the beliefs
and behaviours which are currently underpinning
the life you have now.
To improve the quality of life there must be a
commitment to take action to make things happen.
Good intentions by themselves go nowhere. Sadly
there are few fairy godmothers or sympathetic wizards
to wave magic wands on our behalf.
The articles in this month's newsletter focuses
on how to create the conditions which make it easier
to make lasting changes for us as an individual
and within a partnership.
Make 2008 the year when you take consistent action
to make a positive difference to the quality of
your own life and for those who share it with you.
With best wishes,
Helping you create a life you love!
Tel in the UK: 01708 703 959
Tel from outside the UK: +44 1708 703 959
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Part 2 - Ten Principles to Creating Lasting Change in Your
Creating lasting change is something many of us
find difficult. If it was so easy none of us would
need to lose weight, or keep smoking despite wanting
to give it up, or continue to have disastrous relationships,
or work too hard, or continue to make New Year’s
resolutions which they fail to keep.
How often have you decided you need to do something
to change your life, go on a diet, meet more people,
give up listening to that negative voice in your
head or cut down on your work commitments to find
yourself opening the biscuit barrel or booking another
appointment almost immediately.
How often do you find yourself thinking I’ve broken
my resolution so I might as well have another..?
Creating lasting change is so much easier if you
stick to the principles outlined below.
1) Be clear about what you want to change and
Understand what is going well in your life. What
is it you want more of? What is it you hate about
your life and want to change? What difference would
the change make to your life if you achieved it?
The most dramatic changes happen when “shoulds”
2) Believe it is possible to make the change.
Think about other examples within your life of
how you have succeeded in changing. Many of the
changes seemed impossible – yet you did it.
3) Set clear, specific goals.
The more specific you are about what it is you
want to do the easier it is to plan how to do it
and to measure your success once you have achieved
4) Imagine Your Success is a reality.
Imagine yourself at a time in the future when you
have succeeded in making the change.
How is it different? How do you feel about the
fact you have succeeded? Remember nothing succeeds
like success. Use your imagined success to help
you believe you can make this future change.
5) You get what you focus on.
If you want a brilliant relationship but you only
focus on work or financial success you are far less
likely to achieve a brilliant relationship. Set
aside time and energy to make the things you really
want to happen.
6) Take action
Things will not change unless you make the decision
to do things differently. Many of us do the single
grand gesture and then loose interest. It is the
small actions taken consistently which make a sustained
7) Ask for help
We have no hesitation in calling for a car mechanic
or heating engineer when we want to sort our car
or our heating out yet when we want to make fundamental
changes to our lives we try to do it alone.
Work with a coach, a personal trainer or mentor.
They can help you clarify your thinking, set goals,
plan how to achieve them and hold you accountable
for the choices you make. If you think it too expensive
- think of the cost to the quality of your life
of not achieving your desired outcome.
8) Surround yourself with positive people
If you want to give up something, drinking, smoking
perhaps you will find it easier to spend time with
people who do not smoke or drink heavily. If you
want to do something seek those who do it already
and model their behaviours.
9) Maintain the pace
What action can you take today to start your journey
to success? Remember even the longest journeys start
with the first step. Where do you want to be in
4 weeks time, in three months, by the end of the
year? Set milestones so you can measure your progress.
Make them achievable but with a level of challenge.
If you experience a set back recalibrate your milestones
rather than give up.
10) Celebrate your success
Celebrate each small victory. Create celebrations
which support rather than work against your goal.
Positive reinforcement is a powerful motivator.
Consider your life. What can you do to make a
lasting change in your life?
You might find it useful to work with a coach on
some of these issues. If you would like a free 30
minute coaching session to explore how you could
improve the relationship you have with yourself
contact me on email@example.com
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Gina Gardiner, recognised by "Investors In
People" as creating an "innovative and
exemplary training programme for emerging and middle
managers" and by Ofsted as an “inspirational
leader”. Her experience includes that of “Change
Management” and in supporting organisational leaders
in developing strategic vision and creating a “can
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