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Volume 26 | Oct 2009 | Make Living Life To the Full Your Highest Priority
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Part 1 - Welcome!
Part 2 - Recommended Read
Part 3 - Products / Special Offers
Part 4 - Feature Article - Make Living Life To The Full Your Highest Priority
Part 5 - Media Interest
Part 6 - Organizations - How Heavily Do You Rely On One Person for Key Activities?
Part 7 - Support for Partners of Workaholics
Part 8 - The SaVVy Club - FREE one month membership

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Part 1 - Welcome!

Dear Recovering Workaholic,

Hi there.

My apologies for the break in Newsletters but it has been a challenging few months with both a close family bereavement and moving house.

There is no doubt that significant events in our lives gives us the opportunity to take stock and consider what our priorities are. There are positive lessons to be learned from the bleakest moments and there are opportunities for others to learn from the experience too.

However busy you are and I'm sure you are, please take a few moments out of your busy schedule to consider what your true priorities are, and whether your current actions in life actually bear this out.

The article this month Make Living Life To The Full Your Highest Priority will I hope give you pause for thought.

If you find there is a conflict between your life as it is and the way you want to live your life so that you support and protect your highest priorities why not give me a ring.

If you would like some help in dealing with any of the issues raised in this Newsletter and would like a free 30 minute coaching session please phone me on 01708 703959 or
you can email me on info@recoveringworkaholics.com

Take control of your future!

Recovering Workaholics is a growing concern.

We offer 1:1 coaching, and training to facilitate those who want a truly satisfying life.

Understanding what drives you to work to the point where love, happiness and fulfilment have become the poor relation is the first step to creating a life you truly love.

We can help you work towards achieving your "dream" life.

We provide support for those facing retirement or who have recently retired, ideal for those who want to embrace a new stage in their lives. Redundancy can be a very stressful time, let us help you make the most of the opportunity it offers.

Call today and take the first step to work- life passion on (0)1708 703 959.

If you know of anyone who would be interested in working with us please let us know by contacting us on info@recoveringworkaholics.com or phone on (0)1708 703 959.

Make 2009 the year when you took consistent action to make a positive difference to the quality of your own life and for those who live or work with you.

Call today to sign up for a free no obligation coaching session and take the first step to the future you deserve!

With best wishes,

Gina Gardiner

Gina Gardiner
Helping you create a life you love!

Recovering Workaholics
Tel in the UK: 01708 703 959
Tel International: +44 1708 703 959
Email: gina@recoveringworkaholics.com

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Part 2 - Recommended Read

Who Will Cry When You Die by Robin Sharma

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff-and it's all small stuff

by Richard Carlson

Buy from Amazon.co.uk

If you find yourself being frustrated and stressed by the little things in life then this is a book which can be incredibly helpful.

Richard Carlson offers lots of useful strategies to help you put life into perspective and to find inner calm in your turbulent and busy work day.

It's a really useful read.

How YOU Can Manage Your Staff More Effectively by Gina Gardiner

How YOU Can Manage Your Staff More Effectively (And Pave The Way To Your Next Promotion)

by Gina Gardiner

Order Book Online - £15

Download e-Book Now - £15

This book offers lots of practical strategies for managers to help get the very best of their staff as individuals and as a team.

Everything in the book has been tried and tested in a variety of organizations; it is a distillation of over 30 years experience of developing leadership at every level.

The book does not attempt to teach grandmothers or grandfathers to suck eggs, but offers tried and tested principles, strategies and ideas which have been proven to work.

Time, energy and money are all very precious resources and all three seem to be in short supply for most busy managers.

How YOU Can Manage Your Staff More Effectively (And Pave The Way To Your Next Promotion) can help! Dip into it if you are facing specific issues or use the comprehensive approach to underpin ongoing and sustained individual and team development.

It has relevance for experienced managers who want to share good practice as well as for aspiring leaders who want to develop and deepen their leadership skills.

The book covers a wide range of issues including

  • Developing strategic vision
  • Creating your dream team
  • Creating a ‘Can Do’ culture
  • Effective delegation
  • Holding people to account
  • Developing a solutions approach
  • The power of anticipation
  • Giving positive feedback
  • Having those “hard conversations”
  • Managing stress for you and your team
  • Creating a good work life balance

How YOU Can Manage Your Staff More Effectively (And Pave The Way To Your Next Promotion) will stand alone but you will find it useful to use it in conjunction with the companion book Kick Start Your Career.

Kick Start Your Career by Gina Gardiner

Kick Start Your Career

by Gina Gardiner

Order Book Online - £15

Download e-Book Now - £15

This book is designed for new initiates into the business world and graduates who are ambitious and want to create a successful career for themselves. It is a no nonsense, jargon free manual, full of practical ideas and strategies to support the development of leadership from day one.

These books can be ordered via our web site at www.recoveringworkaholics.com/booksandcds.php.

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Part 3 - Products and Special Offers!

We have produced three CDs designed especially for you to tackle the most common problems that seem to affect many of our members.

They are available now to buy as CDs or as downloadable MP3 files from www.recoveringworkaholics.com/booksandcds.php.

Relaxation CD 1 - A Spanish Theme

Relaxation CD 1 - A Spanish Theme
PRICE: £10.00

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Relaxation CD 1 - A Spanish Theme

Take time out of your busy and stressful day to relax.

True relaxation is known to reduce stress levels, lower blood pressure, clear the mind and leave you feeling alert, refreshed and ready to tackle the rest of your day with renewed energy and vigour.

"A Spanish Theme" uses a mixture of guided imagery and deep breathing exercises to take you on an intensely relaxing journey.

Stress is sited as the cause of over 500,000 days of absence a year in the UK alone. It represents a huge cost in both economic and personal terms. In order to deal with it we must first understand what it is and what causes it.

Where stress is detrimental people are often in situations where they feel they have little control. Sustained exposure to such negative situations can have serious implications for the health and well being of the individual and ultimately for the organization as a whole

Relaxation is a powerful tool to combat stress. Learning to take time out, to truly relax has been proven to lower blood pressure, improve mental acuity and reduce stress.

Our Relaxation Tape with a Spanish theme is the first in a series of relaxation tapes created by Gina Gardiner associates.

Using visualization, guided imagery and deep breathing exercises take time out of your hectic day to unwind, de-stress and relax!

Beat Insomnia CD - Retrain Your Sleep Pattern Without Drugs

Beat Insomnia CD - Retrain Your Sleep Pattern Without Drugs
PRICE: £10.00

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Beat Insomnia CD - Retrain Your Sleep Pattern Without Drugs

Sleep is vital to our health and sense of wellbeing. We need it as much as we need food and water and the air we breathe. It is during sleep that the body rests and repairs itself. Good quality sleep leaves us feeling refreshed, re-energized and ready to face the new day. 

Insomnia affects most people at some time during their lives. For many it is a passing phase caused because of a stressful event in their lives. For chronic sufferers it becomes a way of life. Although it is not life-threatening it can and does threaten the quality of life for many sufferers leaving them frustrated, exhausted and feeling low.

"Beat Insomnia" uses deep trance techniques to help you retrain your sleep pattern without drugs.

Use "Beat Insomnia" to get a great nights sleep and make Insomnia a thing of the past.

Confidence Building CD - Creating the Confident You

Confidence Building CD - Creating the Confident You
PRICE: £10.00

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Confidence Building CD - Creating the Confident You

We all feel less confident in certain situations. This CD is designed to help you feel confident in any situation. It uses tried and tested NLP techniques to help you develop the confidence you need to tackle new social situations or when giving an important presentation or interview.

  • How often do you wish you felt more confident? 
  • Do you worry about social events or standing up to talk in front of work colleagues?
  • Would you like to live your life feeling that you are in control?
  • Do you have butterflies in your stomach that feel as if they are wearing hobnailed boots when you have to go to an interview or a meeting?
  • Is the voice in your head telling you - you can't do it?

Developing confidence is about much more than learning to do an activity better.

It is about changing how we feel about ourselves and dealing with our thoughts and beliefs.  It is about facing the things we fear and being curious about why we fear them.

Use "Creating the Confident You" to learn to push through the fear and create a world of limitless possibilities, where you are in control of your own destiny.

We expect the following titles to be available later in the year.

  • Relaxation CD 2 - A Country Theme
  • Relaxation CD 3 - Sky

For any further information or advice about CDs contact
info@recoveringworkaholics.com or
phone 01708 703959

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Part 4 - Feature Article
Make Living Life To The Full Your Highest Priority

On May 31st at 12 noon I received a telephone call which I found hard to comprehend. My brother aged 49 had died whilst on a training session preparing for the London To Brighton Cycle race. At first I simply couldnt take it in. I drove to Colchester hospital but have absolutely no recollection of the journey. I can only apologize to any motorists I may have irritated on the way.

David was my younger brother. He was a successful business man, who was so far as we all knew, extremely healthy. He had lots of energy, was always on the go, worked extremely hard and had a fantastic social life. He played full out in everything he did

That day was to mark a dramatic change in a number of people's lives. He left a wife and five children and three grand children. The youngest two from his second marriage, Harry the youngest is only ten.

He was in partnership with my sister's husband, a rapidly expanding business which employs a number of people in four separate units. The two Daves worked well together each bringing to the business their strengths, expertise and enthusiasms.

His many friends were devastated and everyone whose life he touched feels the gap.

Why do I share this story with you? There are I believe a number of lessons to be learned, particularly about how you define the priorities in your life and about the things which are really important.

Davids funeral was a terrible, wonderful affair. The church couldn't hold all those who wanted to share in the celebration of his life. All through the day people came up and shared what he meant to them, how he had supported or helped them, how they valued him. The talk was about him the person and how he had connected with them. There was nothing about how much money he'd made or how many contracts he'd won.

David did work very hard and at times he worked long hours yet he always found time to connect with his family and friends. He would often send a text saying "Thinking of you" or "Luv ya". He took time to phone and if he was busy the conversation was quick but it still made you feel valued.

When was the last time you took a minute or two out of your busy day to let the people you care about know? The amount of time is inconsequential; many of you can rattle off a long text in the twinkling of an eye (I still struggle with predictive text!) Yet the impact on the person receiving your loving thought is out of all proportion to the amount of time it takes.

The postmortem showed a condition that if known about, was entirely treatable. He may very well still be with us if he had followed through the full medical screening he kept threatening to book. He was always too busy doing something else. He loved his food and enjoyed a drink. He probably could have done with loosing a few pounds but looked in the pink. How many of you keep thinking or talking about making an appointment for a health screening or to deal with that niggling health issue? How long have you put off dealing with your diet or giving up smoking?

Have you got your priorities right?

What do you focus most of your time, energy and attention on? If all your time is spent working you may rationalize that you are doing so to provide for the loved ones, who are your most important priority.

Ask yourself what memories your partner or your children will have if you were no longer with them? Would they be able to think back to shared time, laughter and experiences?

Would your epitaph read "He worked incredibly hard"?

Lesson Number 1

Make the most of every day.

If living life to the full is your priority what would your ideal life contain? What would it look, sound and feel like?

Is the balance between your working and your personal life right?

If you arent living your perfect life what are you dong to change it?

Lesson Number 2

It is relationships which really count

What are the significant relationships in your life? Are they satisfying? What can you do to ensure that you have fulfilling, loving relationships?

If you have a relationship which is less than you would like or you have no one special in your life what are you doing about it?

Lesson Number 3

Tell those you care about that you do care, and do it often!
Thank those who help and support you and tell them how much you appreciate them and do it often!

All too often we assume others know that we appreciate them. We underestimate how powerful it is to hear that you are loved or valued. It doesnt have to take long but it can make a huge difference.

Text, phone, email or put a note where you know the other person will find it or even better tell them face to face.

Lesson Number 4

Your health is priceless

Without your health you run out of options. Take full responsibility for your health and get yourself checked out. If you need to change your life style diet, exercise, reduce drinking or give up smoking get some help.

Lesson Number 5

The choice is yours

What ever you do or say, or not is your choice. Deciding not to make a choice is your choice. How you live this life is up to you. Of course some choices are more difficult than others and what most of us do is stick with more of the same as it is easier to deal with the status quo rather than the uncertainty of change. Life has the habit of teaching us lessons often the hard way. You can of course choose to learn the lessons which other peoples lives offer to us.

What are you going to choose?

Living your life to the full and making every day count is important to each and every one of us.

Work is an important element of our lives but it doesnt need to define us.

Having a full and balanced life will not only enrich your time away from work but will bring even greater energy, creativity and breadth to your world of work.

If you want your life to be different it is entirely possible to change things for the better.

You dont have to wait you can take the first step today. Remember that every journey however long begins with the first step.

If you need help,
why not work with a coach to take control of your life and make it outstanding!

If you would like a free 30 minute coaching session to explore how you could improve the relationship you have with yourself please phone me on 07833 183 327 or 01708 703959 or
you can email me on info@recoveringworkaholics.com

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Part 5 - Media Interest

An article featuring Recovering Workaholics was published in The National this month and a further article looking at workaholicism and the recession is featured in the weekend Telegraph.

If you are aware of any articles, radio or TV Programmes featuring the issue of work life balance please let us know on info@recoveringworkaholics.com.

If you would like to hear the feature on Woman's Hour which focused on the difficulties that living with a workaholic creates please visit the BBC web site at

Also, if you see anything about our organization in any publication not mentioned by us we would be very much like to hear about it on info@recoveringworkaholics.com.

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Part 6 - Organizations
How Heavily Do You Rely On One Person for Key Activities?

How much stress is your staff under because there is no one who can fulfill their function if they were to go on holiday or to be ill?

What contingency plans do you have in place for dealing with the sudden disappearance of one of your key players?

Do you actively plan to ensure that there are always people who have the expertise and training to undertake all the functions in your department or organization in the event of someone leaving for promotion or ill health?

What would be the net impact on your organization of your leaving your job in the short, medium and long term?


If your business success is dependent on key personnel who have very specialist skills or who are crucial because they pick up all the slack, you leave the individual involved and organisation extremely vulnerable.

Take some time to look at the organizational structure and consider the impact of one or more players being taken out of the equation.

Are key functions left vulnerable?

How quickly could you train others internally to undertake the role?

Would you have to look outside the organization?

How long would that take?

What are the likely costs not only to appoint someone new but in lost opportunities or revenue?

What happens now if someone is off sick or on holiday? Is your business left treading water? Or does someones absence put further pressure and stress on others who are trying to do their own full time job and cover someone else?

What is the impact on your client base? Do you expect them to wait longer or to receive a reduced service? In todays incredibly competitive market it is all too easy to lose clients who are disaffected or dissatisfied. They rarely return even when full service resumes.

You may argue that you cannot afford more staff and that may be true. Perhaps being creative with the staff you have, involving the staff in having a look at what is currently happening and unpicking what activities are essential and those busy activities which slurp up time but dont actually impact on your department or organizations success.

Do you ensure that the calls on your staff personal time are appropriate?

Do they take their full holiday entitlement?

Are they working far longer than their contractual hours and if so how much of your organizational success is based on the good will and unpaid working hours of your staff?

What do you do if you find out a member of staff is taking their lap top on holiday with them in order to keep in touch with work?

Do you applaud their commitment particularly as you do it yourself?

Do you question whether the culture of your organization is right?

Do you take active steps to help your staff have good work life balance?

In the short term ignoring these issues may feel like it is productive but in the longer term the costs in staff absence due to ill health or stress can be heavy. It is also important to consider the cost of appointing, training new staff and in lost momentum and revenue whist you replace and train someone new. There is also the personal cost on you and your managers in terms of stress and sleepless nights. Dealing with problems created because you have lost your key players can be incredibly costly.

The solution lies in strategic planning, succession planning and creating a culture which supports creating a balance between working and protecting personal time.

If you would like to discuss any of the issues in this newsletter, or are interested in training on motivation and influence or would like to work with an Executive Coach please phone me on 01708 703959 or contact us at
info@recoveringworkaholics.com or through

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Part 7 - Support for Partners of Workaholics

We publish a monthly newsletter designed for the partners of Workaholics.

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Part 8 - The SaVVy Club®

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Next time you’re heading to London for a volley of meetings, don’t spend your evenings alone with only the remote control for company. Get out there and enjoy what the City has to offer.

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Your feedback is greatly appreciated.

If there are any topics you would like covered in future issues please let me know on info@recoveringworkaholics.com or complete the feedback form at www.recoveringworkaholics.com/enquiryform.php.

What do you think?

Gina Gardiner

Warmest wishes,
Gina Gardiner
Helping you create a life you love!

For any further information or to discuss your coaching needs contact
info@recoveringworkaholics.com or
phone in the UK 01708 703959 (or International +44 1708 703959).

Gina Gardiner recognized by "Investors in People" as creating an "innovative and exemplary training program for emerging and middle managers" and by Ofsted as an “inspirational leader”. Her experience includes that of “Change Management” and in supporting organizational leaders in developing strategic vision and creating a “can do” culture.

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